Moms, Just Breathe!

Dear Mommy’s,

Life can be stressful and being a mom can add to that stress. Mom's can take on so much and we forget to just breathe and relax. When life gets crazy it is important to stay calm and don't hold your breath. We have to laugh at the things that otherwise make our blood boil. Here are some common situations that are not life or death and we need to remember to breathe...

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Being a mom can be stressful, so remember to breathe!

When your coffee spills on you and your leather seats…Just breathe!

When your kid pukes all over and misses the bucket or toilet…Just breathe!

When you have to wear a bra on a Saturday…Just breathe!

When your kids find your stash of chocolate…Just breathe!

When your husband tells you to relax…Just breathe!

When your kid says, “Just relax mom”...Just breathe!

When your husband clips his nails and leaves them in the bathtub or on the countertop...Just breathe!

When the school asks for you to volunteer just one more time…Just breathe!

When you burn dinner…Just breathe!

Got distracted and forgot to get kids...Just breathe!

When your dishwasher breaks…Just breathe!

When you get the car back on empty…Just breathe!

When the toilet paper roll has four squares left…Just breathe!

When the person in front of you can not make up their mind when ordering...Just breathe!

When you change the baby, get them in their car seat, and they shart all up their backside…Just breathe!

When the kids and your spouse leave every light on in the house…Just breathe!

When your Netflix binge is interrupted by, “Mom I just can't sleep!”...Just breathe!

When your dog runs away and you are in a hurry...Just breathe!

When you clean your house and 2 hours later it looks like it never happened...Just breathe!

When all your friends get to have mommy outings and you have no one to watch the rugrats…Just breathe!

When you set your alarm for 5:45 PM, not AM...Just breathe!

When you’re running late to work because your kid is refusing to wear pants... Just breathe!

When you realize you will never catch up on all the laundry you have to fold...Just breathe!

When you double book appointments and don’t realize it until the last minute...Just breathe!

When your husband feels neglected because you’ve been taking care of everyone else then you crash at the end of the day...Just breathe! 

When the cute new sweater you’re wearing for the first time gets baby puke all over it...Just breathe!  

All we can do is breathe!

Break Through Your Limits

Life is funny. More often than not, we go about life “playing it safe,” which means, repressing your fears. You really give up a lot because you’re handcuffed to your fears that are paralyzing you, all in order to avoid facing those fears. I used to “play it safe” too, and only recently began to grasp the fact that by doing so, I’d put myself in a glass cage. I can see outward but can only go so far. I realize that so many others do the same thing and I wonder, Why do we do this? 

I guess we think that if we don’t go to certain “dark” or “uncomfortable” places where the fear resides in our own minds, everything will be okay. We just have to stay in the glass cage and not cross certain boundaries. Wrong! The glass cage we have put ourselves in is a false safety zone and we are really not okay. Press too hard on the glass and it will break, and we all know how dangerous cut glass is. But what if we leave the glass cage behind? Maybe we’ll have greater success...  even fly! The fact is that the glass cage doesn’t serve us well. 

As we become wiser, we realize that the very things we do to “play it safe” and “protect” ourselves are often the very things that harm us! The mechanisms of protection we layer ourselves with are varied. Repressing our fear is one way we try to protect ourselves. Think of how you may have held on to a relationship that no longer served you. Why did you hold on to it? Maybe because you feared the alternative of loss and being alone? But what if by letting go, you soon find yourself in a healthier, more compatible relationship? Interestingly, the truth is that holding on to fear creates blockages in your energy field. It also lowers your vibration, your frequency! Releasing negative energies (toxic people, things, thoughts, emotions) opens you up to receiving people, things, thoughts, emotions and opportunities that vibrate at a higher frequency. 

We all vibrate at a specific frequency. The lower the frequency, the more heavy and dense the vibration is. The higher the frequency, the lighter and more energetic we feel. The good news is that we actually get to choose our frequency with our thoughts. Positive thoughts create a higher vibration. Negative thoughts and fearful thoughts create a denser, heavier frequency that weighs us down. So, it is no wonder we get stuck in the glass cage. The not-so-good-news is that the longer we stay in the glass cage, the lower our frequency becomes and the heavier we feel. It’s what makes us feel stuck. But we never are really stuck, we just need to start thinking positive thoughts. That will raise our vibration and lighten us up so that we move forward.  

Let’s take a simple example. Say you trip and fall (I hope not!) You immediately start complaining. You tell everyone you know, “I started off the morning with a fall. What a crappy day! And I still hurt.” Chances are that as your day continues, it will unfold in the worst way. “I had the worst day today. The entire day was crap and everything was yucky! It started when I fell.” Soon your coworker is complaining about all the negative things in her life, too. Uhhhhh!!!! Now imagine that you fall and immediately get yourself back up, dust yourself off, grab some ice for your knee, maybe laugh at how clumsy you are. Then you go on with your day grateful that you’re okay and your injury wasn’t worse! This latter thought pattern keeps you vibrating at a higher frequency, which in turn attracts high vibrational energy. After all, like attracts like.

If we can all set our fear aside and realize that fear exists at a very low vibration that prevents us from flying high, we can start to break free from the glass cage we have put ourselves in. 

Over the last two decades I had put myself in a glass cage. I told myself, “Just play it safe; get a job, get insurance, and blah-blah-blah.” But what if instead of just playing it safe, I had told myself, “Do what you love, help others, follow your purpose. Be who you are meant to be and be proud of who you are!” Wowzers! If there had been a class we could all have taken as a kid that taught us to be free of our fears and fly… can you imagine? Instead, what we got was the fears of others projected onto us. So, from a very young age we are all programmed to be safe. “Play it safe, get a job, get insurance, and, by the way, government jobs are really super secure.” That’s the stuff that was programmed into us. It’s what was programmed into me as far back as I remember. Why? Because my parents’ fears were being projected onto me. They feared not having enough, not having job security, not having insurance, and their fear became my fear. “Avoid doing what you love if it doesn't include all these things!” Barf!

Well, I allowed my parents' fears to drive me all of my adult life - until a few months ago. Now I actively remind myself that working for myself, doing what I love to do, and making a difference in the world, is okay! I mean - geez! - I have to remind myself and give myself permission to be the amazing human I was meant to be! 
Reprogramming yourself takes time and work! It doesn't happen overnight but it starts changing as soon as you recognize your glass cage and the programming that has been downloaded into you and your mind. So, please, use this as a reminder to be you, follow your passions, and break through that glass cage. The world deserves to have the true you. To free yourself you must find out who you truly are!

Struggle With Jealousy?

Jealousy is an ugly word surrounded with bad energy. But Jealousy is also a very complex emotion that deserves some unpacking. The interesting part about feeling jealousy is that it forces us to look within and reflect. We feel jealousy for two fundamental reasons. One, we are witnessing a quality within someone else that we are capable of but just haven’t yet achieved it ourselves. And two, jealousy is an emotion based in fear. You can feel jealous of another's success yet, you are fearful to take the same leap they took to get to that point. You can feel jealous of another’s relationship but you have yet to lay down the foundations for a strong loving relationship because of the fear of rejection or dissatisfaction or disappointment, etc. 

Why do we even feel jealousy in the first place? Low self-esteem? Feelings of  jealousy can be rooted in the fact that you haven’t done the work to increase your self-esteem to a healthy level. Need I remind you that strong self-esteem is rooted in: seeking and developing positive relationships, eating the right foods, following your higher purpose, exercising, getting enough sleep, practicing good posture, following your dreams, managing your money, moving beyond your past experiences, and being a part of something bigger than yourself! I know it takes a lot to build confidence, so make sure you are always building up and not knocking down. 

We must shift jealousy into positive energy. We must shift jealousy into praise and encouragement for that person, all while squashing our fears and taking action towards what we truly desire. See jealousy as a friendly reminder that it’s time to do some emotional health maintenance.

Other words that are similar to jealousy are envy, desire, and resentment. One can understand envy and desire, but resentment? The resentment felt is probably not for that person but for the fact that you are not being the best person you could be or you are not living your true purpose. That resentment is towards ourselves yet we are projecting it onto someone else. Feelings of jealousy should be shifted into feelings of encouragement for you to start living the life you desire.

If you find yourself feeling jealous, ask yourself…

  1. What do I see in them that I could work on within me? 
  2. What actions can I take in my life to live my higher purpose? 
  3. What is it that I truly need at this moment to feel better? (Do I need more rest, nutrition, water, exercise?)
  4. Why does this person bring out these emotions in me? What is my lesson here? 
  5. What can I do to improve my self-esteem right now?
  6. What can I do to build self-esteem in the long-term? 
  7. What is jealousy telling me I need to work on?

Let the feelings of jealousy be a motivation to go deeper within and reflect as to why you actually feel jealous. All jealousy represents is something within you that is not being expressed, accomplished, or discovered for your highest good. Also, practicing mindfulness and keeping a gratitude journal can be great practices to combat the negative feeling of jealousy. Do you have a mindfulness practice? Could you pick up a notebook to journal in? 

Go deep, take action, encourage others, and know jealousy is rooted in dark energy to slow you down and block you from your greatness. Unblock yourself! - Anna Marie

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